Boost Emotional Intelligence, Logic, Wisdom, And Creativity | Free Udemy Course

Welcome to the course. You will learn about I.Q, E.Q (Emotional Intelligence), logic, creativity, and much more. 

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If you wanted to become more intelligent (not just iQ) and train your brain to work faster and more efficiently, then you instead need to

1) Train your working memory 

2) Use physical coordination challenges to stimulate your brain to grow new brain cells through the production of brain derived neurotrophic factor, a type of growth hormone that produces new brain cells. 

Whoever studies EQ has advantage because almost no one ever studies it.

- Emotions influence behavior so knowing which emotions you have and how to channel them will help you have more positive emotions and more benefitial behavior

- You talk to yourself differently when u r happy or sad. You see the same situation diff when angry or happy.- There is an emotional element to every human interaction!

- Handling distressing emotions in a positive way so that they don't cripple you or lead you to destructive actions

- Mood management: ability to shake off bad moods and get into productive moods

- Self-motivation: ability to get yourself to do productive tasks. How good are you at doing things you don't like doing?

- Moods are contagious. Lead with necessary moods and transfer them onto people rather than being passive and have things develop. So make sure you don't have bad moods like anxiety because as a leader you can make that mood permeate the organization.

- Angry or anxious or irritated? Slow yourself down.

- Tension is first stage of anger arousal. Stressors that might lead you to flip out one day are no big deal another day when you are relaxed

Emotions leak out through these:

E - eye contact, initial connection

M - muscles of facial expression and a roadmap of human emotion

P - posture - signals approach and avoid signals

A - Affect - expressed emotions. Try to label and identify people's emotions

T - Tone - you can tell a lot from the tone

H - Hearing - hearing the whole person and also understanding the full context of where/how people live

Y - Your response - our inner experiences and feelings mirror those of others

We are wired for empathy because our survival depends on it. 

Helen Riess

1) Listen and ask questions. Don't interrupt, decrease your social anxiety, slow down the conversation and focus on the between the lines. 

2) Mix open-ended questions and specific questions

3) Reflect quietly

1) Identify and ackgnowledge the feeling of anger 

2) Identify exactly what's wrong

3) Take time out or slow things down to give yourself physical time to decrease anger

4) Were some expectations not met? Were those expectations realistic? Could there be a good reason for expectations not being met? Did you expect too much?

5) Check for distorted thinking

6) Take advice from a trusted person to gain perspective

7) When possible, constructively express what's wrong

8) Ask if the impact experienced is what the other person intended

9) Use problem solving to change the root cause of what caused the wrong.

1) Acknowledge the state of fear

2) Identify the nature of the threat

3) If possible, reframe fear as less intense feeling of concern

4) Reference previous experiences where the fear seemed bad but turned out not to be bad

5) Problem solving to make the fear go away or sidestepped

6) Evaluate risk of fear happening or alternatives

7) Seek help from support system or someone in charge

Positive and ready to act.

1) Akgnowledge emotion

2) Slow down - it can cause you to overestimate and be overly optimistic

3) Look at realistic limitations

4) Take advice

5) Does current enthusiasm match long-term intentions?

1) Realizing that we don't know what we don't know

2) Accumulation of knowledge and experience and conclusions and being able to apply that in adventageous ways.

3) All of us are wise about some things and foolish about other things

4) Implied wholeness rather than scattered pieces of knowledge

5) Knowing who you are, knowing what's important

6) Smart at life

7) Make smart decisions

8) Get yourself to the point where there is lack of bias. Ability to make objective judgements.

9) Seeking of truth rather than any specific outcome

10) Not right/wrong, right/left but nuanced and realistic

11) Process and understand emotions, but not be at the whim of the emotions, but control them and use them as clues and guide posts to what's right for you.

12) Foresight and ability to think ahead

Exercise helps directly by releasing chemicals and reducing inflammation and indirectly, stimulates new brain cell growth, relieve stress and anxiety

Significant physiological changes to your whole body.

During stress, adrenal glands get activated, body takes on the fight or flight mode, and only looks for essentials and everything else gets disregarded or adds to stess.

Brain supresses your pre-frontal cortex, which is the part of the brain that does the thinking. So you just emotionally react.

Chronic stress can shrink your brain volume over time. Stress can kill brain cells, especially in areas of the brain connected with memory or learning. Creates extra fear and anxiety. It reinforces the stress from original cause of stress.

Brain can depleate your brain of nutrients/chemicals and make your brain sluggish and inefficient.

Causes difficulty to focus, learning, concentrating, poor sleep, racing thoughts and anxirty,,

- Singular task

- Engaged, motivated and interested.

- What you are doing and your skills are adequately challenged to the point that you can still do the task

- You are not overstressed and not too overwhelmed

1) Too busy with work - give yourself idle time

2) Go to nature

3) Doodle/write/freeassociate

4) Combine fields and studies (2 or more seperate concepts together)

5) Answer the same question in different ways

6) When our mind is unencumbered, it looks for novelty, and when it is stressed and occupied, it looks for simplest and most straight forward solution it knows. So if you find your task or the environment stressful, then that stress will cause the lack of creativity. it isn't that you are not creative, it is that maybe there is some stress that puts you at a disadvantage.

7) What day is today exercise

8) What can you use this random item for exercise?

9) INTRO: creativity is part of intelligence because it helps us solve problems and find new things

10) 9-dot problem. Break down mental barriers. No rules. You can make up the rules.

11) As expertise grows, creativity goes down because of associative limitations. It gets harder to see things in new free ways.

12) Continuius practice, sleep, right now solution

1) Habit is not creative

2) If a habitual solution is readily available to the brain, it will take it

3) You need to break out of the habitual solution or perspective 

4) .External pressure can be the push you need: deadlines, world situations, your own desires, market needs, or your own acknowledgement that you need new solutions.

5) Look for outlandish ideas and try to see how they can work instead of can't. Even if they fully don't work, elements of them might be helpful or cause inspiration in another way.

6) This is the path to breakthroughs!

When mind is idle or sleeping, it works on issues that were bugging it earlier. So before sleeping or relaxing, work on your challenging task, and your mind will find creative solutions to the problems when it is idle or sleeping and can wander.

Also random free association.

- Creativity mostly fails and mostly produces poor results from experimentation. But if your environment punishes creativity, it will kill it. You have to allow for creativity.